Altruism

I really hate that most thoughts I have about God end with me being drenched in guilt. 

Why is it so important to associate God with guilt?

Did God die on the cross just to hold it over our heads forever? "Hey you should love Me. Look what I did for you?" Or did He die because he knew it was the only thing that could save us. He did it with no thought of what He would get in return.